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This is applicable to more than just the smoking habbit...ThysdJ wrote:Here's my take on it...
The main problem with quitting is that the poor smoker gets so intimidated by the whole thing and everybody telling him/her how bad smoking is that he doesnt know where to begin. Usually non smoking friends are so keen to assist with advice and horror stories about how deadly smoking is, that the poor smoker gets totally overwhelmed by input. Smokers know exactly how bad smoking is for them. They live with that, believe it or not. They are not that ignorant. They also know that it is good to quit, both physically and financially, but they just dont know how to start the quitting process. The whole quitting process looms as large and as intimidating as Mount Everest!
You see, the biggest fear a smoker faces when quitting is failure. Not so much failure itself, as the retribution he is going to face from others (especially non smokers or ex smokers) on the outside, making him feel like a complete loser. Therefore a lot of people rather continue smoking than to run the risk of being branded as a failure. To quit smoking is hardly ever a big bang event. Yes some have managed that, but if it really was that easy all of us would be ex smokers. It is a hard slog, that needs to be taken hour by hour, before it is taken day by day. Once you are a few weeks in you can take it week by week. BUT most importantly, get over the first hurdle, the first hour!
Becoming an ex-smoker is actually all in the mind, getting around it mentally. What the smoker really needs to do is break the problem down in small managable chunks. Celebrate the small victories, and dont dwell on the stumbles along the way. Never see a stumble as a failure, but rather as an opportunity to try again, for longer this time. Small victories, will be the first hour then the first day. Should the smoker stumble in this time (have a smoke), the period of time that elapsed between his last smoke and the stumbling point is the victory. Concentrate on the positive, the number of smokes you DIDN'T have, rather than the one you had. Put the stumble behind you, move on and try to beat your previous victory. Always striving to better the time you can do without a smoke. Eating the elephant one bite at a time.
Crutches/Quitting Aids
Use crutches if that makes it easier for you. By all means use patches, sprays, gum etc. All these are healthier than smoking, even though it still feeds the "nicotine monster". Not everybody has the will power to quit cold turkey. It is easier weaning yourself off the crutch that off the smokes.
Remove all temptations
This works for me. Finish the last pack you bought. Do not leave smokes in the house, car, desk at work, or anywhere where it can tempt you. That means if you want to cheat, you have to go buy a pack, or bum a smoke from a buddy, who usually wont just give it to you if they are supportive of your attempt to quit. If there are smokes at hand, it just makes it more difficult to quit.
Keep yourself busy. The mind wanders a lot, and every now and then you get up to walk to where you would normally have a smoke (especially in the office if you smoke outside). I usually walk to the kitchen and get a drink of water, and use the Quit spray I have.
As I said before the first day is tough... I am having a very very tough 2nd day. But I know from experience that after the 3rd day it becomes easier. Seems such a short time (3 days) until you actually live those 3 days... damn it seems like everyminute lasts for an hour!!
The message to take away from this is to
1 ) break things down into managable chunks (hour by hour, day by day, week by week)
2 ) never feel you have failed if you stumble
3 ) know it is going to be hard, but not impossible
4 ) concentrate on the positive of what you have achieved
5 ) keep on trying until you get it right
6 ) make use of whatever you have available to kick the addiction
7 ) know you have a support group out here that will motivate and assist where they can.
Sorry Tumelo did'nt get what you meant initially, but now I see it...... that was no spelling error....Donkey wrote:When I first read I was like yohGI Jane wrote:Hey it's all in the head.... When you understand that smoking is an addiction and not a bad habit, that the anxiety within is only the craving for the next smoke, and not factors around you, and that once you no longer feed the monster and it dies, the craving goes away. Every time you feed the monster it goes away momentarily, until you finish the smoke and then the anxiety and craving starts all over again. It is a vicious circle until you break the cycle... Let's break the cycle of nicotine addiction and stop feeding the governments koffers with the tax money from our cigarettes.....and the cigarette manufacturers with our hard earned money... it is in their best interests to keep us addicted.... but not in ours..., sorry couldn't resist
So you thought I sat at the office from 05:30 till just after 18:00 because I have tooo... nope. I just hate traffic that muchGI Jane wrote:Sjoe, taking strain this morning..... Fortunately am not dropping children at school in this hectic Joburg traffic today... may be a potential road rage candidate.... How do you guys deal with traffic in Joburg... whew.. and all the road works... okay... breathe.. going to the gym, will probably be able to spin off the irritation...
My travel time to the office is generally about 40min when there is no traffic. You can more than double that if I travel during rush hour and everything is still free flowing...GI Jane wrote:It's crazy... had to leave home yesterday at 6.45 to get the kids to school by 7.30, it took me almost 40 min in the traffic there and 10 min against the traffic home.
Mmmm Thys is that snithcy, itchy, scratchy withdrawal.... sorry that was irritable me complaining about the traffic... So have raided my granddaughters lollipop stash, and am plowing through them at the moment.... they taste and smell much better than cigarettes ....ThysdJ wrote:off topic!!!![]()
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Hey Mr_B, no the little &**%^$ still busy taking my house, food and patience away bit by bitMr_B wrote:Dewald, you killed the ants yet? Keep going guys... remember tripping along the way is no reason to quit! Be strong and hang in there!
What did I do?Gysie wrote:BTW.....I'm two days minus a smoke...count me in...can't let my fellow Capetonians tackle such a monster task with so few!
Hilton thanks for joining - but you really dont need to pay VAT to join us- BTW![]()
Anyway on the honesty part - I have smoked 9 siggies yesterday which is 51 less than my normal smoking day. day. I havent bought a packed in 3 days - thus I am still saving my money.
Sorry for the not quiting straight out but will continue until I have kick that monsters "donkey"![]()
Big up to all of those that is still going strong and by the looks of it the lady is kicking our buts as always. Val you go girl - drive like a pro and now quites like a pro !!!
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Give that man a BellsGysie wrote:Morning morning!
Still trying my best did 7 siggies yesterday. I have gone so far that I dug out my old scooter. So now when I need to get n bolt of something I use the scooter instead of my baby but atleast I cant smoke on the scooter. It normally costs me one smoke going to the hardware and one smoke back so there I have cut the monsters throat. Oja and this normally gets done at least 4 to 5 times a day so there is 8 servings gone from the monster. The Laaitie and me even use the scooter to go home so now i am even saving on fuel and smokes.
Anyway -thanks for all the support from all including the nonsmokers.
WE WILL WIN !!!
Val, if I look at some of those pics, you will know exactly what I mean when I say, some obstacles we need to redo, or try again in the 4x4 field, we don't always get them first time, even though we drive Hilux'se hehehehe, so put it in reverse, size it up and go for it againGI Jane wrote:Started off well and then totally lost the plot... had all the usual excuses for smoking the next cigarette, so pretty much have to start from scratch again... For those of you that have stopped and going strong, well done. I'm starting off at the bottom of the hill again.... but not giving up on giving up
ThysdJ wrote:There is no easy way to say this but I crashed spectacularly about 3 days after I started. Gone down in flames, so to speak.![]()
It will be easy to blame a lot of circumstances, but I am not going to. At least I managed to cut down from "a-pack-a-day" to "a-pack-every-2-days"...
Quitting is going to happen, but I sense it is not going to be right now... Kopskoonmaaktyd...![]()
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Well done to you guys who are still holding out.... Gysie?? waa's jy??![]()
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CasKru wrote:I might not be participating but see this as an endurance race or like the Dakar. You might have a few check points along the route but between those points you can take any route. The goal is to get to the finishing line no matter how you get there.
It does not matter how many time you fall, it matters how many times you get up.
Stay strong... Still praying for all of you
GI Jane wrote:Welcome David the more of us that are there to support and encourage one another the better.....
Gysie wrote:Morning,
to all of you who don't know - this is the stop smoking support group. Please if you wish to stop smoking put your name on the list. For those who wish to support us please do and to those who wants to laugh at us be warned.
As of 8h23 we will smoke our last one.
1. Gysie - WP
2. Thys - WP
3. Val - GI Jane - WP
4.Transkalahari 515( as of 1st MarchGP
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Daais maklik tjomma!! Wanneer jy die volgende enetjie wil vat loop sweis net so bietjie aan my canopy... Hy moet Vrydag klaar wees!!Gysie wrote:Thysie - ek weet nie meer nie ons sal nou moet serious plan maak!!!
Ja, day three is die swaar dag, daai ou nicotine monster sien jy is ernstig...Adventures4Christ wrote:Is it just me but day three and I can hardly keep my eyes open, I am tired and just want to sleep as if nicotine was more of an energizer hehehehe
Anyway, I'm still impressed, this is the longest I've gone without my fix and on top of that I am still drinking my coffee, talking about torch er!!!!!!
Ek gaan 'n vloermoer gooi, meskien skrik die nicotine monster so groot hy hardloop sommer weg![]()
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Het jy Rennies suig tabletta al probeer.Taljaag wrote:Ek het nou al vir 20 dae op gehou met rook.Kan iemand vir my raad gee vir sooibrand.Ek het dit nog nooit gehad nie.Nou kry ek dit vandat ek op gehou rook het.